Purity

As a young teenager, I can recall countless moments where my Aunty Cindy would yell "clinch clinch". Meaning close your legs! My aunt has always been very open with my cousins and me about the dangers of having sex before marriage. She told me how once you share something that sacred with someone you guys are not only physically attached but also emotionally connected. Once you give up that part of yourself to someone it is hard to let that person go.

Funny story, when I was eleven years old I was in my middle school small group at church and I don't exactly recall what conversation we were having but I proposed that I and the other 6th graders take a purity pledge. My small group leader at the time loved the idea. So she made a ceremony and within a month I and the other girls pledged to be abstinent until marriage. We had to sign a contract in front of our parents and pastors. I was so happy and had every intention to keep my oath. Until one day when I let my guard down and let my flesh take over.

When you are in a relationship if you don't set certain boundaries it is very easy to fall down that slippery slope. When my EX boyfriend and I first started dating we made it clear to each other that we wanted to wait for marriage. We set boundaries but we didn't adhere to them. We would hang out late nights by ourself and we didn't really place God in the middle of our relationship.

If you are trying to stay pure in your relationship it is essential that God is in your relationship. Pray together, do devotionals together, ask each other how you are growing in your walk with God. Being accountable is helpful. It keeps your goal in perspective.

If you are struggling to stay pure in your relationship here are a few tips to help:

1. Avoid tv shows, movies, or music that will expose you to sexual impurities. ...

2. Talk about it with your boyfriend and agree to it. ...

3. Set boundaries when it comes to time and physical affection. ...

4. PRAY

5. Allow Jesus into your relationship.

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-Kadee